Update for Dear GirlFriend Diaries ..

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Hey GirlFriends,

Well new content is up today on YouTube.  Its just a quick video about whats to come for the summer with Dear GirlFriend Diaries.  So this summer will have a few new features and segments on Dear GirlFriend Diaries vlog.  In the upcoming weeks we will be experimenting with new material such as a cooking show and the Panda Diaries. The cooking show will be featuring Mom aka Mom Dukes as we are fixing to cook in the kitchen we will be fixing our mother and daughter relationship. In these episodes we will be creating and critiquing new and old recipes and Im talking about the classic recipes like chicken and dumplings, swiss steak, macaroni and cheese, potato salad, kabobs, lasagna, guacamole, brownies, and so much more. So look forward to that coming soon. Last but not least I am hoping to release the first few episodes of The Panda Diaries. This is where I face my struggles and the challenges that are commonly held in a new relationship. 

Mr. Panda and I will explore some of the real reasons why relationships fail and how to address some of these issues in a marital relationship. We will fight through our love jungle or jungle of love shall I say to see if love really will conquer all. So as you can see I have a busy summer ahead and lots of new stuff in store and the summer has only just began. So until next time ladies ..

Bye GirlFriends!


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We're Back ..

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Hey GirlFriendssss!

Well we have been working hard on new material and we are just about ready to release.  I am excited to say the women's panel lunch is upon us and we will be sharing our thought and ideas about topics that we have preselected that relate to the lives of our girlfriends.  As women we commonly have had to overcome and face the same issues.  During this experiment, we are challenging ourselves to remove those common dividers such as politics, race, and religion.  Everyone is excited to participate in this project because we as women remember being in our younger days and stumbling and falling a time or two.  Often we don't have someone close to us that we trust enough that we can get advice from or even just to listen and share our problems with.  Well this project is help with just those issues. As women we are responsible to go back and help the next generation along in their journey by sharing our experiences. Our hopes are that we can touch a few lives by sharing our victories.

Until later GirlFriends!



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Breaking Bad Habits

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Hey GirlFriends!

So recently, I met an older gentlemen that was dealing with alcohol abuse and drug addiction. After he shared his story what took me by surprise the most was how late in life he started his bad habits.  It  made me empathize with him though because we all have had to deal with our habits at some point in our lives.  It was at that moment I realized that bad habits can come into ya life when you least expect it and when your vulnerable. So I thought to myself, that when I was breaking a bad habit that it had to be the most challenging and trying situation ever.  All I could do was understand the difficulty in what he is facing.  Quitting bad habits is a purging of behaviors that have probably been in ya life for quite some time. If caught early then we can usually walk away without much damage.  The problem is in the beginning we seem to think it is not a habit but it is only fun and that it is all under control or that quitting is no problem.  When in actuality those are the lies we continue to tell ourselves to engage without all the guilt or having to confront the issue itself. To break a bad habits it takes everything you got to be dedicated to quitting. So with this post I just want to encourage anyone struggling or dealing with addiction or bad habits. This is not an easy battle and if you really want it then you can find your way to being addiction free.

Ttyl GirlFriends.


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Black list, block list, or naw?!?

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Hey GirlFriends!

So over the weekend I was thinking about issues that girlfriends can relate to and so I began to look over my own life.  Recently, I had a situation arise that allowed me to see that life is ALL choices.  Some choices we make and others are made by the people we choose to have in our lives.  In relationships we are either building bridges or burning bridges.  

I used to think that to like someone or not like someone was just natural or it just happened all by itself.  This is not the truth.  We determine in our own thoughts if we like someone or if we do not like the person based off of our thoughts around our experiences with that individual.  It is my interactions with someone that will determine if I like them or not and vice versa.  For example, if I hang out with a group of friends and someone says something that I disagree with or they do something i don't like and then it happens multiple times I may decide in that moment that I don't really like that person's approach and sum that experience with them up to a negative one. If I choose to I may walk away feeling as if I don't really like that person and may therefore create negative thoughts about them which will create similar future experiences with that person.  So before you hop on the bandwagon to put someone on your blacklist or block consider this: Did I contribute to this negative experience in some way? Did this interaction impact my life in some majorly negative way?  Can this person contribute to my life in the future? Is this person connected to others that I associate with?  In spite of our differences can we agree to disagree?  So the next time you react to someone by trying to block them take a moment to reconsider how can I rebuild this bridge and turn it into something positive. 

Well Girlfriends, Ttyl


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Friday is HERE!

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Hey GirlFriends!

Its Friday.  Yesterday's girls night went so well.  I had an ice breaker session with 2 of the ladies from Dear GirlFriend Diaries which you will get to meet soon in our group therapy session.  I tried to gather women from different backgrounds to make the shared perspectives diverse and interesting.  Each lady will give a brief introduction of herself and talk about her hopes for the vlog and her contribution to this project. We are all very excited and you should be too. Happy Friday GirlFriends and enjoy ya day. 

Ttys GirlFriends!

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Upcoming this week

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Hey GirlFriends!

Its me @RobynRoquel again and I am checking in with you gals out there.  For the women discussion panel we are doing an icebreaker just to get to know each other better.  So we will be doing an outing at Painting with a Twist in our hometown.  It will be my first time and so to do something special for the ladies I will be bringing them a bouquet of flowers and card just to show them appreciation for their participation in this project.  I am hoping that these group therapy sessions will help some young lady out there that may be struggling with the matters of her mind.  I am looking forward to having these women share their experience on the vlog and talk about some real life issues. As we progress, I am hoping it grows into more.

Ttyl GirlFriends


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Hey its that time ..

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Hey GirlFriends! 

Its that time to start a new week.  Yesterday I posted a convo I had with a FBF because I feel like we aren't having real discussions about some of the major breakdowns in communication with men in women. After a lengthy back and forth I think that I realize some of the problem. The gentlemen and I had quite a few convos on social media and it was only after I stated some of the obvious differences between men and women and our view points as women did I come to the conclusion that there are a few different pools of men.  There are those that decided to take on the traditional role of a man and he has settled down with a woman/wife. You have men who have decided to be single forever. There are those that date the same sex and don't date women at all. And then there's everything in between.  In all of this mayhem somehow a single is suppose to find her mate and settle down.  Well GirlFriends don't feel alone if it has not happened yet.  Many of us struggle with finding the right guy because well we get lost in the process. Recently, I had a girlfriend say to me its hard dating right now. The look on her face gave me the idea that she was really struggling to find a mate. So I ask myself what are the primary obstacles that women face on the dating scene?

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Sunday! Sunday!

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Hey GirlFriends!

Well you should be well on  your way to finishing your weekend. I am beginning to feel my weekend routine kick in. As the day grows longer, I somehow begin to fit more into my schedule during day. Today I spent some time having a discussion with the men in my FBF about how we relate to one another. See below:

Ankh: If women only knew their power!!! I'm so tired of women saying the reason why they dropping the ball is bcuz a man "hurt" them. We r what our women are as a Nation!!!

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Robyn: It's the other way around Ankh the women are what the men are. That might just be the problem right there the men see things 🙃

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Ankh: See, Robyn, ur doctrine tells u that the man is the head/leader & that speaks of "god" in a masculine way which is why u look at things in that manner. I can understand that...which is why we r at a no end battle in our community. The Wombman is the 1st in EVERY ASPECT of our lives. Think about that. How can we prosper without y'all??? What great leader never had a great woman WITH them??? I'm not giving men a pass here...don't get me misconstrued.....all I'm saying is the state of our women....especially in the community....shows u where we r headed for.

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Robyn: Ankh I just said women can organize all we want but guess what it's the men that lead! A gentlemen did a video saying the men are predators instead of protectors. As long as the men prey on the women in the community and continue to go for self the results will be as such. Think abt who does most of the crime and are the most heartless towards each other. The woman is not first she births the nation and has some influence but the men lead the nation. Most presidents, religious leaders (any religion), and professionals (doc/law) are men. Is this not true?!?

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Robyn: Ankh  I guess what I'm trying to say is your perspective which may represent many men is 🙃 you can tell which way the community is headed by looking at the state of the men in the community. Have a blessed day!

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Tail: Robyn good dialogue here. Lol. In my opinion I feel like women are the nurturers by nature. I think that they prepare the little ones in the household, teach them how to care for themselves, hygiene, cook, clean and things of that nature. You know, care takers of the home. The men lead them and guide them in how to maneuver in the world, spot danger, know what and where there could be potential harm for cause. (Forward mobility of the people). Provide and protect the family. Assist the woman when she's in need around the house. I know that I'm all over the place that's my bad. But all in all, the two go hand in hand. You'd be hard pressed to find success without both.

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Robyn: Tail that's a great response I can see the difference with your response. I am talking to a married man who has decided to take on the traditional responsibilities of a mans role. I point that out to say that i can see why some men think the way they do bc in my opinion their perspective is 🙃. And ultimately these are the men in the streets with the young that are lost and sharing there perspective and ideologies not being offensive. Your opinion is greatly appreciated Tail Davis and we need more men that think like you to step up and help the ones who are behind. This just really sheds light on some of the troubles we are facing and it's not just our community it's all communities. Yes my ideology comes from a religious perspective but just imagine if all we had were THE LAW in this world where would we be?? 

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Ankh: Robyn so......bcuz I'm not MARRIED my point was invalid??😳🤔🤔 Bcuz u knew me for being in the streets u disregard my knowledge & perspective just bcuz I still interact with my young people that is STILL in the streets?? We have to do better.....our thinking of a person & what that person has to give is totally different issues. I'm not taking that personal, we all r entitled to our own opinions, but r u married?? What traditional responsibilities(whatever that means)have to do with the subject at hand??🙃🙃

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Robyn: Ankh no u took that all wrong. I was highlighting the difference of opinion and somehow I knew this would happen .. smh! My apologies I was making reference to the differences. I prolly didn't say it correctly either. That's all! I tagged u in a few videos but the main one is when He talks abt men accepting their role and not blaming women.

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Ankh: Robyn I know u wasn't demeaning me....I was just trying to see the "difference" in our opinion bcuz u stated the "traditional marriage" reference. I seen the video & I totally agree!!! Like I said earlier, I'm not giving men, particularly my Black men, any passes either. We all need to pull up & in MY OPINION, our women is the BACKBONE of the home/Nation.

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Robyn: Ankh that's cool. I said traditional Male role not marriage .. but I agree. 




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Hey GirlFriends .. Issa girl thang!

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Hey GirlFriendssss!!!

Well our meet and greet for the women's roundtable group was yesterday! Still undecided about what to call it. We were so so excited to meet for the first time and 😋to see how this vision will take flight. Over the next few weeks you will be introduced to each of the characters in the group so that you can become familiar with each of our faces. Our goal is to encourage some woman out there who is struggling with everyday life. We hope that this experiment will have a positive impact on the women that follow us on this journey.  Its awesome to see your dreams become a reality right before your very own eyes.  I really want to encourage every woman out there that whatever it is you dream it can become a reality so stay the course.


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